(probably not-so-earth-shattering)
Right.
So.
Sean is back and it's been just a bit stressful. Tense. Strained.
Remember .. this blog is about me .. raw. Unedited. You may not want to continue. AND now that I've said that ... it ensures you WILL continue to read.
Also remember that he's been gone for 3 1/2 years. Do you know how long that is? Well .. it's a long time. Long enough for kids to grow, me to shrink (shrivel) and both him and I to change. We've done that. Change. Not that it's all bad .. but certainly there's some getting used to each other. Remembering old behaviors and learning new ones.
Trust me .. it's not all that fun. What work is fun? But I'm sure there has been some fun too...
Him .. "you just left for three 1/2 hours. where'd you go"
Me ... "oh, am I supposed to tell you when I leave?"
Him ... "where's the mayo?"
Me .... "don't you know .. we don't eat mayo"
Him ... "umm... a kid just walked in without knocking"
Me ... "yeah, that happens here. and that's okay."
Him ... "do you realize there's no room in our closet for my clothes"
Me .... "hmmm..."
Me ... "can you not eat like that?"
Him .... "I don't like you either"
This certainly is a re-learning process. Can you learn to be married again .. to the same person?
Anyway .. back to the point I was on here to blog about. So I'm in the kitchen with Hayley chatting with her as I cook. She pauses and says ...
"mom, please don't be offended when I say this.."
me .. taking a deep breath - preparing to be .. offended.
"well, the thing is .. I don't think this is working out with you and dad"
me ... "why in the WORLD would you think that?" (in my best pretend I have not a clue what she's talking about and maybe if I pretend that I have no clue what she's talking about .. the conversation might end.
Not so much with my Hayley.
she says "anyway ... and remember not to be offended .. but if this is gonna go down - you better make it quick"
At this point .. I'm actually taken aback. Now I REALLY am clueless. What is about to come out of her mouth?
she continues "well ... you aren't getting any younger. you do realize this right? I'm just trying to say that you are cute enough RIGHT NOW to still snag a good looking guy. Like maybe even a young one if you tried really (is she serious??) hard. But in a few years .. your chances are gonna be pretty slim."
I can always count on my girl for good dose of brutal honesty.
5 comments:
Good old Hailey. Always saying what adults don't dare say.
I can only imagine how tough it must be after 3 1/2 years. I feel that way when David visits and is here over a week.
And you will still look good and be young in 10 years. Remember that:)
OK, All I can hear is the immaturity talking, as if it has everything to do with looks...my mother in law (the whore) found love at 86 and is giddy happy and entirely un-attractive..love and happiness don't have a time limit...it comes from within! My pastor told us in counceling that we should become students of our spouse, ever learning how to keep loving them...we all change
holy cow, 3 1/2 years!!!! Wow!!!! don't you just love the way our children view our lives.... levi just asked me mom what was it like when you didn't have tv, Me: i don't know I've always had tv, levi: no I mean when you were a kid and there wasn't tv, Me: son, tv was around when I was little, levi: no i mean in the 1300's mom. Me: I wasn't even born then, levi: oh... really??? Thanks for the laugh!!!!!!
Hang in there friend!! No one can judge you until they walked a mile in your shoes...as for Hayley-she's out for your best interest!! love ya tons
Not sure I'd agree that her comment was "immature". She's 16 and at 16 .. picking out a boyfriend/mate is mostly based on looks. Isn't it for most at age 16?
I wonder if your pastor has been away from their spouse for 3 1/2 years?
Just sayin ...
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